Stress is part of the human nature. Some people tends to think stress is a subproduct of the accelerated way of life of the times we’re living in. Actually, when the caveman looked his hungry family after a week of failed hunting, he felt stressed. In his third month of navigation toward Asia, with low food and water reserves, Columbus felt stressed. And when the shepherd looks his sheeps in the most bucholical prairie of the most green and sunny mountains, he feels stress when the howl of the wolf echoes.
Once we assume stress is natural, there is three single steps to control it.
1.- Detect the stress and/or assume when anyone is stressed
Some people age quickly and nobody knows why. Probably they don’t know the reason that is making his life so poor. If you feel yourself overwhelmed or you believe your next challenge will end in a new failure, maybe it’s time to sit down and think about it. If you don’t know the results or the consequences of your last action and need to wait some time to discover it, you can wait patiently or let you roll down in a river of nerves and anxiety.
Well… that’s stress. It’s a new problem over the problem we’re trying to solve and, although it seems to stay in our mind, it can get us sick and trigger problems in our stomach or our inmune system.
Then, the first step is just to recognize how stressed we are and how it is a new problem itself.
2.- Take solutions against the stress
Internet is full of websites about tricks to control stress. Most of them are rules of common sense to get us back to the way of life of non stressed people.
Once you know how much stressed you are, you must design for yourself a strategy to prevent stress changes your life:
– eat healthy foods and drink a little bit more water than you’re doing
– fix yourself a routine for your sleep time and do not get your problems to the bed
– do some exercise; it’s not a question of good shape, a half hour of swimming would do wonders on you (and yes, if you want, you’ll find a half hour every week but only if you really want)
3.- Solve your problem
Everybody knows there is two kind of problems: those without solution, so no worth worrying, and those with solution that just need to start working on it and left the stress behind.
Therefore, let’s take a pen and a blank sheet of paper. We will describe in it the terms of our problem and the kind of trouble we think it is. This is the most important point of this strategy, really. Having a clear picture of the problem, the facts, and the possible solutions works wonders. YOu won’t believe until you do it. So do it!
If it has no solution (someone very near us has cancer or we’re waiting a sentence from the court) we will write the reason that make us so stressed and the solutions we will take to control it. Now, we know what to do.
If the trouble has solution, come on, let’s do it. In our paper, we will describe the problem and the posible consequences of every action. Maybe you’ll need a second sheet to let black on white a lot of “and if?” but finally you’ll have a clear scheme of your trouble.
Use Internet to find solutions and you’ll be amazed about how many people had the same trouble and how they solved it. You need an additional job to get some extra money? Search the classified ads. You need to write a dissertation and have no idea to start with? Let a professional do it for you. Did you angry argued with your neighbor? Make a list of solutions, responses or options and its consequences to get it clear. Is your company firing people a maybe you’re in the next round? Write a list of options to stay there and another one just in case you loose that job.
And of course, you’re way better than you think and you shouldn’t let the stress to ruin your life. And you know it.